Dear Mr Bitter Guy, I need dating advice ...
If my tool had a title it would be "Stoner Tool". His priorities go in this order: 1.Himself 2.His stoner friends 3.Weed 4.Partying 5.Family 6.Me. I'm not asking to be number one all the time (family comes first) but come on.. He can go anywhere from almost a month to a week without making an effort to talk to me. After dating for over a year, I consider this unacceptable. The first 6 months of our relationship were great, but then he started smoking weed again and everything changed. He would give up EVERYTHING for weed! He says things like, "I don't love weed, it's just been my business for so long," or "Weed isn't a thing you do, it's a lifestyle," "You'd be a better person if you smoked," and all sorts of other B.S.
He says he loves me but usually that's only after being intimate. Which brings us to my next point. We NEVERRRRR go anywhere other than his house. I complain about it all the time and he gets all pissy and says "Fine, okay just drop it!" I really wanna hang out with him and his friends or go do something other than hang out in his house but it's like he wants to hide me from the rest of the world! And he gets sooo jealous of other guys, but when I get upset that I find a picture of him and his shirt off while holding some girl (which he lies and says is from over a year ago), he says I'm "trippin'".
So to sum it up, he doesn't care anymore. I've let the disrespect slide so many times that it's become the only way he treats me. Well not the ONLY way, but it's enough that it makes me really unhappy.
Is this fixable? How? Because I really am in love with him. If not, how can I get over him? And what should I say to make him fully understand..?